Handfasting ceremony

By hiring a celebrant you can have whatever you want in your ceremony! This could be readings from your favourite book or film, poems, or more often than not a 'symbolic element'. These can take place at any point in your ceremony and can be personalised totally to you and your interests, hobbies and personalities. Some examples include:

Handfasting/'tying the knot': this is a tradition that involves tying ribbons, cords, or any other material that will work around the couples held hands as a blessing or vows are taken.

Jumping the broom: traditionally taking place just before the couple or family leaves, jumping the broom symbolises sweeping the past away and stepping into your new lives together.

Lighting of candles: any number of candles could be lit to symbolise an infinite number of meanings, from having a candle representing each partners family and using those to light a unity candle or having a person from each generation lighting a candle to represent a family coming together.

Unmasking: arrive wearing a mask of your choosing, and have your partner unmask you at some point during the ceremony to reveal your true self to them and your gathered trusted guests.

Other examples of a symbolic element include drinking from the same cup or glass traditionally called 'The Loving Cup', planting and watering a tree, and pouring sand together in a unity sand ceremony.

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Photo by Doodah Photography

Dungeons & Dragons Dice Ceremony

One of my favourite symbolic elements is one I created myself, and is one for those who are fans of table top RPGs, mainly Dunegons & Dragons!

Similar to a traditional sand ceremony where each person in the couple has a different colour sand that they mix together into one jar to represent their lives coming together, this involves each person having a set of dice.

Each dice represents a particular aspect of your lives, and you combine your two sets of dice into one 'Together' jar. I enjoy placing this dice exchange just before your vows with the D20 the last dice to be placed in the jar - that way you can each roll for initiative to see who'll be saying their vows first!

I particularly love this as it's a fun aspect to bring into your ceremony, and welcomes something you love and possibly enjoy as a couple and with friends and family to be an important part of your day even if your wedding is not particularly themed.

Photo by Doodah Photography
Photo by Doodah Photography